My heart aches now.But I will heal, pain for now, but it will go, because time heals everything.

It was for my mental health, I was putting up with this really proud person, and we had serious communication problems, everything that person said, I could see through, into his mind, but kept ignoring everything, no matter how it all contradicted the principles of life I believe in.I did all this because I believed that I owed this person my happiness, which I did somehow, I owed him the good, but I forgot that everything in this world is give and take, you cannot take from anybody, anything but by giving back to the person somehow.

So I was wondering what attachment is really, (because knowing something more is of no harm).

Here is what I got:

1. A feeling of affection for a person or institution.

2. A bond, as of affection or loyalty; fond regard.

Well, I always believe, and still do, that attachment to a person is vain, useless, and hampers our progress as humans, emotionally and practically.

Why?

Being attached to your parents is natural, but being attached to random people: friends, is stupid.May be my inability to trust plays a major role in my perception here, but yes, for me, family are people who will never betray me, and other than my brother, father and mother, and God, nobody seems to be able to gain my trust.

Trust is like acting blind, you close your eyes and take the fall, hoping someone saves you before you hurt yourself, hoping for miracles.Well, miracles do happen, but, that does not mean you walk into Hell hoping God will save you, its stupid, illogical.

Attachment with trust (because i do not know attachment without trust) is like walking into Hell, all naked, calling on the Devil, and not even wearing a cross and the blaming everybody else when you are…well, burned alive and hurt.

I did just that, because once upon a time when I was growing up my mother told me,”To simply trust and not question”, while giving me a pep talk about relationships, and I believed her as I had the relationship that my parents shared as a good example, plus it was coming from my mother, plus, I was just a naive kid.May be it was her luck, or may be psychology, that once she observed my father’s behaviour, and saw that he was worthy of her trust, she trusted him completely, and never questioned anything he did, and it worked for her *touchwood*.

But this is what a lot of women do today, trust blindly, ignore any proof of betrayal, ignore the fact that the relationship is hurting them and in the process hurt themselves, its sad, but its true.To anyone who is in such a relationship, a guy or a girl, if this sounds like you, I think its time to talk to him/her now, if it still doesn’t seem to be working out, it is time to move on.

Trust does not happen in a day, a month, or sometimes even a year, it takes its own time, it is a slow process, and attachment only happens when you trust someone, if you are attached to someone, and if you, in your heart don’t completely trust, its all fake, don’t fool yourself.

It is rightly said,”Trust yourself, you know more than you think you do” ~ Benjamin Spock.

Love to you reader, and bye byes to my friend, I hope we meet again, when you have discovered the answers to the riddles of life, when you see things through other people’s eyes, when you have finally learnt that pride is a parasite, that eats you up from within, slowly.I hope we meet again, but only once, smile, appreciate what we have taught each other, but for now, goodbye.

I originally wrote it as a song, I even composed it and I even won the Grammy for it in my head but…I don’t want to sing it.So, well I hope you liked my poem reader.Thanks for reading

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